EP133: I wanted to unzip my flesh and float away — Guest Kate Carson on somatic healing after loss
The Missing Piece Masterclass | June 1st
Many bereaved mothers are still moving through pregnancy loss feeling unseen, unsupported, or expected to "move on" before their nervous systems have ever truly processed what happened.
And many practitioners are doing their absolute best… while quietly sensing there is still something missing.
The medical system calls it a medical event. Traditional training calls it grief. But pregnancy loss is trauma. And trauma lives in the body.
Join me for a free masterclass exploring:
✨ THE GAP – What traditional training misses
✨ THE SCIENCE – The neuroscience of reproductive trauma
✨ THE SOLUTION – The trauma-informed approach that works
This is not just another training. It's an invitation into deeper understanding.
Register: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thereproductivelossleadershipnetwork
I'm genuinely so excited to hold this space with you 🤍
NOW on to the Episode:
In this deeply honest conversation, I'm joined again by Kate Carson — somatic love, sex, and relationship coach and long-time admin of the Ending a Wanted Pregnancy support group — to talk about one of the most overlooked dimensions of pregnancy loss recovery: the relationship between a woman and her own body.
Kate shares her own story of losing her daughter Laurel at 35 weeks, travelling to Colorado for termination care, and the years of somatic discovery that followed. What began as a desperate wish to "unzip the flesh and float away" became the foundation of her entire healing philosophy — and her life's work.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why 97% of women are already in a strained relationship with their bodies before loss — and what reproductive trauma does on top of that
- The difference between grief, depression, and trauma in the body (and how to feel the distinction from the inside)
- Why retelling your story over and over can be more retraumatizing than healing — and what to do instead
- The postpartum reality no one talks about when your baby doesn't come home: hormones, milk, pelvic floor, and the cascade that happens regardless
- Practical nervous system regulation tools you can use in the acute stages of grief — including vagal toning, movement as cycle completion, and the 30-second surrender practice
- Why "next kind thing" is more useful than "love your body" when you're deep in the shadow world
- How peer support groups can be the premium product in grief recovery — and why lived experience matters alongside clinical training
- The truth that your body only ever reveals what you're ready for
This conversation is a permission slip to stop fighting your body and start listening to it — because everything you need to heal is already in there.
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