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1:1 Pregnancy Loss Recovery Support | Sharna Southan

1:1 Pregnancy Loss Recovery Support

High-touch private support with Pregnancy Loss Expert Sharna Southan

What This Is

Private, trauma-informed support using The Pregnancy Loss Recovery Method™—the only specialised framework built specifically for reproductive loss, not adapted from general grief models.

This is personalised guidance through the six pillars of pregnancy loss recovery, meeting you exactly where you are in your journey.

Your Journey Through The 6 Pillars

Each pillar meets you where you are, holds what you're carrying, and guides you toward integration.

Sessions 1-2: Emotional Literacy & Assessment

Duration: 90 minutes each

Where you are now:
You're being told it's "just grief" but it feels like so much more. Your body is screaming one thing while everyone around you is saying another. You're supposed to be "over it" by now, but the ache in your chest when you see a pregnant woman hasn't lessened. You're wondering if you're grieving "wrong" or if there's something broken in you.
"Why does seeing someone else announce their pregnancy feel like a knife? Why can't I just be happy for them? What's wrong with me?"

What these sessions give you:

  • Language for the unnamed emotions you're carrying
  • Understanding that pregnancy loss isn't general bereavement—it's grief + trauma + postpartum combined
  • Assessment of your unique emotional landscape and triggers
  • Permission to feel everything without pathologising your responses
  • Your personalised recovery pathway mapped to where you are now

The shift that happens:

You stop questioning if your grief is "right" and start understanding why it's so complex. You can finally name what you're feeling—and that naming alone brings relief.

Sessions 3-4: Identity Reconnection

Duration: 90 minutes each

Where you are now:
You don't know who you are anymore. The question "Am I a mother?" haunts you on Mother's Day, at family gatherings, when filling out forms. You feel like you're living between two worlds—not quite the person you were before, but not the mother you thought you'd be. Your identity feels shattered, and you have no idea how to put the pieces back together.
"Do I say I have children? Do I mention the baby I lost? How do I answer when someone asks if I'm a mum? I feel invisible."

What these sessions give you:

  • Understanding that identity fracture happens at a neural level—not just emotional confusion
  • Frameworks for holding both/and: you ARE a mother, even without a baby in arms
  • Witnessing the pieces of self that feel lost
  • Guidance through reconstruction, not just acknowledgment of loss
  • Permission to redefine yourself on your terms

The shift that happens:

You stop trying to "get back to who you were" and start becoming who you're meant to be now. You can answer "Am I a mother?" with clarity, not shame.

Sessions 5-6: Neuroscience & Body Understanding

Duration: 90 minutes each

Where you are now:
Your body feels like a stranger. You can't explain why you can't breathe deeply anymore, why your shoulders are always tight, why you freeze when you see blood. You're told "it's all in your head" but you KNOW it's in your body. The medical system treated your loss as a "gynecological event" and sent you home, but your body knows it gave birth—even if no one will say it.
"Why does my body still feel pregnant sometimes? Why do I panic at every doctor's appointment? Why can't I relax even when everything is 'fine'?"

What these sessions give you:

  • The neuroscience behind why pregnancy loss affects 4 brain systems simultaneously
  • Understanding why this IS postpartum trauma, even without a baby
  • Validation that your body's responses are intelligent, not broken
  • Knowledge of what's happening neurobiologically, not just emotionally
  • Building interoceptive awareness and body connection

The shift that happens:

Your body's responses finally make sense. You stop trying to "think your way out" of physical responses and start working with your nervous system instead.

Sessions 7-8: Nervous System Optimization

Duration: 90 minutes each

Where you are now:
You're either constantly on edge—scanning for danger, unable to relax, jumping at every sensation in your body—or you're completely numb, disconnected, going through the motions but not really present. You can't regulate. Small things send you spiraling. You don't feel safe in your own body anymore.
"I haven't felt calm in months. Even when things are 'fine,' I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. My body won't let me rest."

What these sessions give you:

  • Identification of your personal dysregulation patterns
  • Practical nervous system regulation tools specific to pregnancy loss trauma
  • Building regulation practices tailored to you
  • Creating embodied safety in your body
  • Expanding your window of tolerance gradually

The shift that happens:

You start to feel moments of actual calm. Your body begins to trust that it's safe. You can regulate yourself when triggered instead of spiralling.

Sessions 9-10: Neuro-Reprogramming

Duration: 90 minutes each

Where you are now:
You're stuck in loops. "It was my fault." "My body failed." "I should have known." "If only I had..." The same thoughts, the same blame, the same stories playing on repeat. You KNOW logically it wasn't your fault, but your body and brain won't let it go. The patterns feel hardwired.
"I know it wasn't the mustering, or the motorbike, or forgetting the aspirin—but I can't stop blaming myself. My brain won't let me off the hook."

What these sessions give you:

  • Tools to identify limiting beliefs and trauma patterns
  • Rewiring the neural pathways affected by your loss
  • Moving beyond cognitive understanding to actual neurobiological change
  • Breaking the loops of self-blame and shame
  • Creating new possibilities and patterns

The shift that happens:

The stories that once controlled you start to lose their grip. You can think about your loss without immediately spiralling into blame. New patterns begin to form.

Sessions 11-12: Trauma-Informed Integration

Duration: 90 minutes each

Where you are now:
You've done work. You understand more. But you're not sure how it all fits together or what your path forward looks like. Can you try again? Should you? How do you honor your loss while also moving toward the future? How do you hold all the pieces—the grief, the growth, the fear, the hope—at the same time?
"I want another baby, but I'm terrified. How do I know if I'm ready? How do I move forward without leaving my baby behind?"

What these sessions give you:

  • Integration of all six pillars into your daily life
  • Distinguishing grief from trauma responses
  • Frameworks for making decisions about trying again or moving forward
  • Creating your ongoing support plan
  • Recognising and honouring your transformation

The shift that happens:

You're no longer just surviving—you're integrating. You can hold both the loss and the life you're building. You know your next steps with clarity, not confusion.

Program Structure

Total Sessions 12 sessions (90 minutes each)
Duration 3-4 months (weekly or fortnightly sessions)
Format Private 1:1 via Zoom

Inclusions:

  • âś“ 12 x 90-minute private sessions with Sharna
  • âś“ Personalised recovery pathway mapped to your needs
  • âś“ Personalised resource vault developed just for you as we move through the programme
  • âś“ Voice note support between sessions (within business hours)
  • âś“ Guided practices and resources specific to your journey
  • âś“ Nervous System Regulation Toolkit
  • âś“ Recording of each session for your reference

Investment & Options

Investment options and payment plans are available to make this transformational support accessible.

Contact me directly to discuss program details, pricing, and find the option that works best for your situation.

Contact Me for Details

Who This Is For

This 1:1 support is for you if:

  • You've experienced miscarriage, stillbirth, TFMR, or ectopic pregnancy
  • You're struggling with the emotional, physical, or identity aspects of loss
  • You feel stuck, frozen, or like you're "not healing right"
  • Your nervous system feels dysregulated and you don't know how to find safety
  • You're questioning who you are now
  • You want specialized support that understands pregnancy loss as trauma + grief + postpartum
  • You're ready to do the deep work of integration and reconstruction

What Makes This Different

This isn't general grief counselling or therapy.

This is specialised, trauma-informed support using the only methodology built specifically for pregnancy loss—addressing all layers: emotional, neurobiological, somatic, and identity-based.

You'll be guided by someone who has:

• Lived experience of pregnancy loss
• 7+ years developing this specialised method
• Trained practitioners internationally
• Deep understanding of the neuroscience and trauma of reproductive loss

Next Steps

Ready to begin?

Message Me on Instagram

Send me a DM with "1:1 SUPPORT" to get started

  • Schedule a brief 15-minute compatibility call (complimentary)
  • Discuss your specific needs and goals
  • Determine if this program is the right fit for you
  • Answer any questions you have

All sessions conducted via Zoom

Trauma-informed approach in all communications

The 6 Pillars of The Pregnancy Loss Recovery Method™

This is your journey. Each pillar meets you exactly where you are, holds what you're carrying, and guides you toward integration.

Pillar One

Emotional Literacy

Understanding the landscape of what you're actually feeling

Where you are now:
You're being told it's "just grief" but it feels like so much more. Your body is screaming one thing while everyone around you is saying another. You're supposed to be "over it" by now, but the ache in your chest when you see a pregnant woman hasn't lessened. You're wondering if you're grieving "wrong" or if there's something broken in you.
"Why does seeing someone else announce their pregnancy feel like a knife? Why can't I just be happy for them? What's wrong with me?"
What this pillar gives you:
Language for the unnamed emotions. Understanding that pregnancy loss isn't general bereavement—it's grief + trauma + postpartum combined. Permission to feel everything you're feeling without pathologizing your responses. The recognition that your emotions are intelligent, not excessive.

The shift that happens:

You stop questioning if your grief is "right" and start understanding why it's so complex. You can finally name what you're feeling—and that naming alone brings relief.

Pillar Two

Identity Reconnection

Reconstructing who you are after fracture

Where you are now:
You don't know who you are anymore. The question "Am I a mother?" haunts you on Mother's Day, at family gatherings, when filling out forms. You feel like you're living between two worlds—not quite the person you were before, but not the mother you thought you'd be. Your identity feels shattered, and you have no idea how to put the pieces back together.
"Do I say I have children? Do I mention the baby I lost? How do I answer when someone asks if I'm a mum? I feel invisible."
What this pillar gives you:
Understanding that identity fracture happens at a neural level—this isn't just emotional confusion. Frameworks for holding both/and: you ARE a mother, even without a baby in arms. Guidance through the reconstruction process, not just acknowledging the loss. Permission to redefine yourself on your terms.

The shift that happens:

You stop trying to "get back to who you were" and start becoming who you're meant to be now. You can answer "Am I a mother?" with clarity, not shame.

Pillar Three

Neuroscience & Interoceptive Foundations

Understanding what's actually happening in your brain and body

Where you are now:
Your body feels like a stranger. You can't explain why you can't breathe deeply anymore, why your shoulders are always tight, why you freeze when you see blood. You're told "it's all in your head" but you KNOW it's in your body. The medical system treated your loss as a "gynecological event" and sent you home, but your body knows it gave birth—even if no one will say it.
"Why does my body still feel pregnant sometimes? Why do I panic at every doctor's appointment? Why can't I relax even when everything is 'fine'?"
What this pillar gives you:
The neuroscience behind why pregnancy loss affects 4 brain systems simultaneously. Understanding why this IS postpartum trauma, even without a baby. Validation that your body's responses are intelligent, not broken. Knowledge of what's happening at a neurobiological level—not just emotionally.

The shift that happens:

Your body's responses finally make sense. You stop trying to "think your way out" of physical responses and start working with your nervous system instead.

Pillar Four

Nervous System Optimization

Creating safety in your body again

Where you are now:
You're either constantly on edge—scanning for danger, unable to relax, jumping at every sensation in your body—or you're completely numb, disconnected, going through the motions but not really present. You can't regulate. Small things send you spiraling. You don't feel safe in your own body anymore.
"I haven't felt calm in months. Even when things are 'fine,' I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. My body won't let me rest."
What this pillar gives you:
Practical nervous system regulation tools specific to pregnancy loss trauma. Understanding your personal dysregulation patterns. Techniques to bring yourself back to your window of tolerance. Building capacity for your body to feel safe again—the foundation for all other healing.

The shift that happens:

You start to feel moments of actual calm. Your body begins to trust that it's safe. You can regulate yourself when triggered instead of spiraling.

Pillar Five

Neuro-Reprogramming

Rewiring the patterns that keep you stuck

Where you are now:
You're stuck in loops. "It was my fault." "My body failed." "I should have known." "If only I had..." The same thoughts, the same blame, the same stories playing on repeat. You KNOW logically it wasn't your fault, but your body and brain won't let it go. The patterns feel hardwired.
"I know it wasn't the mustering, or the motorbike, or forgetting the aspirin—but I can't stop blaming myself. My brain won't let me off the hook."
What this pillar gives you:
Tools to rewire the neural pathways affected by trauma. Moving beyond cognitive understanding ("I know it's not my fault") to actual neurobiological change. Breaking the loops of self-blame, shame, and limiting beliefs that keep you frozen.

The shift that happens:

The stories that once controlled you start to lose their grip. You can think about your loss without immediately spiraling into blame. New patterns begin to form.

Pillar Six

Trauma-Informed Integration

Bringing it all together and moving forward

Where you are now:
You've done work. You understand more. But you're not sure how it all fits together or what your path forward looks like. Can you try again? Should you? How do you honor your loss while also moving toward the future? How do you hold all the pieces—the grief, the growth, the fear, the hope—at the same time?
"I want another baby, but I'm terrified. How do I know if I'm ready? How do I move forward without leaving my baby behind?"
What this pillar gives you:
Integration of all six pillars into your life. Understanding the difference between grief and trauma so you know what you're working with. Frameworks for making decisions about trying again, supporting others, or simply living with loss. Your personalized path forward that honors where you've been and where you're going.

The shift that happens:

You're no longer just surviving—you're integrating. You can hold both the loss and the life you're building. You know your next steps with clarity, not confusion.

This Is Your Journey

Six pillars. Twelve sessions. A transformation that meets you exactly where you are and guides you toward integration, clarity, and peace.

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