EP149: PART TWO: "We're there too" — What pregnancy loss really looks like for fathers - Guest Nathan Wieser

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In Part 1, Nathan Wiser shared the unimaginable — five pregnancies, four losses, a daughter who didn't come home, and a son born fighting for his life at 26 weeks.

Today, In Part 2, we pick up in the NICU — and what unfolds is one of the most honest conversations I've had on this podcast about what it actually takes to survive grief as a man.

Nathan opens up about hitting rock bottom, the self-destruction that followed, and the moments he thought about swimming out into the ocean and not coming back. He talks about what kept him here — his dogs forcing him off the couch, a handful of lifelong friends, a wife who held space even when she didn't understand, and a crash course in facing hospitals head-on with Otto fighting beside him.

After 121 days in the NICU, they brought their son home. And then a wildfire took everything they'd built.

Still, they stayed.

This episode is for every father who has sat in a dark hallway, alone, carrying something no one asked him about. And for every partner who has wondered what their person is holding that they haven't said out loud.

In this episode we cover:

• What the NICU journey really looked like — the code blues, the surgeries, the miracle
• How Nathan coped (honestly — including the ways he wouldn't recommend)
• Why fathers are often invisible in pregnancy loss support
• The communication that kept Nathan and Lucy's marriage intact
• What Nathan would say to any man deep in the pit right now
• Otto's first year, the wildfire, and life on the other side
• Nathan's book We Did It — and why he wrote it

Connect with Nathan:

IG: @nathanwieser

If you know a man who has been through pregnancy or infant loss, please share this episode. These conversations save lives.

Nathan's book We Did It is available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

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Find me here: @reproductivelossleadership 

If today's conversation resonated with you, I'd love to stay connected.

My mission is to help change the landscape of pregnancy loss care through education, advocacy, research, and evidence-informed, trauma-informed support. Whether you're navigating your own loss, supporting someone you love, or you're a healthcare professional wanting to improve the care you provide, there's a place for you here.

You can follow my work, explore educational resources, listen to more podcast episodes, or learn about the Pregnancy loss recovery method & Integrated Pregnancy Loss Care framework Or the Pregnancy Loss & Trauma-Informed Specialist Certification.

Together, we're creating a future where every pregnancy loss is acknowledged, every family is supported, and every practitioner feels confident to provide compassionate, person-centred care.

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Share your thoughts, leave a review, or connect with me on social media—your voice helps shape this conversation and reach more families who need it.

Thank you for being part of this community. Together, we're changing the future of pregnancy loss care.

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